Below is an article describing anti feminist thoughts. In
some, she apologizes for thinking/saying them. This sparked something in me.
First, I thought the list was very interesting. Some I disagree with, others I have
thought and then thought, oh should I not think that? Clearly feminism can be a
complicated matter (although I don’t believe it has to or should be). So this
led me to thinking, should we apologize for our behavior? In this article is
says women dress for guys sometimes. I think that’s true. Should we shame
ourselves for it? People have often said things like “sorry to sound like a
femninist buuuut or not sound like a crazy pms girl” – does this perpuate the
idea that we need to apologize and should feel bad for the way we think or
feel? Someone is always telling us we are wrong. Either people hate us for not
being an active feminist and supporting the fight outwardly or we identify as a
feminist and get a bad reputation because of it’s negative connotation. We are
identified as being man haters (which isn’t true of all feminists). Either way,
we seem to lose? Another thing is that I’ve often heard people apologize for
wanting to be stay at home mom. As though it’s a total regression for women and
that it’s wrong. Personally, I want to have a career but eventually be a stay a
home mom and raise my kids. Is that wrong? A large part about being a feminist
to me is about choice. The choice to be a stay at home mom or not. The choice
to marry or not marry. Women didn’t have the choice to work or not, we do. So
instead of apologize for chosing, shouldn’t we rejoice that we can now chose?
It’s at least a step in the right direction in my opinion. Overall, I feel like
women in general apologize way to much for things we don’t need to be sorry
for. We can live whatever way we want, and that should be ok.
http://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-fagan/2013/12/21-anti-feminist-thoughts-every-woman-has-had-at-least-once/
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